It isn’t about you…

Originally posted on The adopted ones blog:


Throughout my life I’ve been a reader.  Reading allows to escape at times, other time it teaches me what I need to know, hear.  It helps when I’m not sure about something, questioning whether feelings have changed, or will change in the future.  First I start with the past, then my era, and try to decide what it may be in the future.

Recently, what I’ve questioned is about what people say about an adoptee says they wish they’d never been adopted.  I’ve heard the responses, and generally, they tell the adoptee it’s because they just had a bad experience.  Others say adoptee’s today won’t feel that way.  Most take it as a direct attack on adoption, themselves as adoptive parents.  Discussions seldom end well, but there are also deeper thinkers out there who can understand why it was said.  I don’t know if I’ve ever said it, but, I know that it…

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The Social Isolation of the Privileged


I’d like to give this piece an amen.

Originally posted on Education and Class:

This article offering advice for living frugally while in grad school was making the academic rounds last week.

And the comments on the article, on the Chronicle’s Facebook page, and across Twitter were consistent:

This couple’s story is about what can be done when absolutely everything has gone right in your life and your parents have a a backyard “that is by no means big”  where they can frugally host your wedding reception for 150 people (this tidbit is from the author’s financial advice blog she links to, not the article) and have pretty much financed everything for you except what your generous grad school stipend covers.

Or as one Tressie McMillan Cottom tweeted:

What strikes me about…

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Friday Prayer: Horrible Realization

Originally posted on RevGalBlogPals:

I can’t stop thinking about Sandra Bland,

An innocent black sister- life cut short

Reason not unknown, but unacknowledged.

Correspondingly, brothers and sisters call out

Post.    Tweet.

Declaring: “If I die in police custody, it was not suicide.”

The sighs of the Spirit in that prayer are the bellows of labor pain and drowned voices.

Oh, God, do we like substitutionary atonement

Because it absolves the ones in power of the full implication of having murdered an innocent brown man?

Are we falsely consoled by the idea that Jesus knew the cross was coming because it reduces our complicity?

Makes it our “heritage and history”, but not our fault?

We cannot bear the tweet of Christ, “If I die in Roman custody, it was not suicide.”

Oh, God, we have not named our demons with honesty that they might be driven out from us.

I have run out of…

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NPR: Max Gladstone’s CRAFT Sequence


This looks good! Have you read this series?

Originally posted on Amal El-Mohtar:

NPR Books recently launched a new feature called TIME MACHINE, to encourage more thorough coverage of series, since mostly there are a lot of reviews of first and last books, but not a great deal of critical attention given to a series as a whole, or to its middle books. I opted to cover Max Gladstone’s Craft Sequence, and my review went up this past weekend.

750 words contain only a fraction of what I could say about this series. I didn’t touch on the beautiful economy of its prose, the ways in which the world-building is devastatingly clever, the conflation of soulstuff and capital and the implications of that — but hopefully it’s enough to be getting on with, to convince you to pick up the books and talk to me about them, because they’re just SO GOOD and Elayne Kevarian is my everything and I can’t wait to…

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RIP Tanith Lee


I have greatly loved her work.

Originally posted on Sci-Fi Bulletin:

British Blood-20writer Tanith Lee passed away on Sunday May 24th, aged 67.

Lee was the author of over 90 books and 300 short stories, as well as four BBC Radio plays, and two highly-regarded episodes of the BBC’s SF series Blake’s 7 (Sand and Sarcophagus). She was awarded the Lifetime Achievement Award at the World Fantasy Convention in Brighton in 2013 and the Horror Writers Lifetime Achievement Award this year, which joined her British Fantasy Award from 1980 for Death’s Master, and her World Fantasy Award for her short story “The Gorgon”.

Her work spanned many genres, including science fiction, fantasy horror and crime, but her preoccupation, she maintained, was always people.

Tributes have started to appear on social media with Guy Gavriel Kay noting that “We’ve just lost someone I greatly admired as a person & writer,” and many agreeing with Jonathan Strahan’s comment that “she was, simply, remarkable.”

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Everyone deserves a living wage…. even if they can’t spell ‘fries’


Alert for bad language in the shared post. But what he has to say is spot on. Same for what Jupiter says. Classism is ugly and it’s past time we did better by each other.

Originally posted on Poor as Folk:

The above response is perfect.

As a writer, I appreciate grammar and spelling. As a human being, I recognize that some people don’t speak or write with “perfect English” does not disqualify them from earning a living wage.   Perhaps I am able to see this because I was raised by my Grandpa who had to drop out of school in the 6th grade to help support his Mom and 6 younger siblings after his father died or because I have step-children who were raised in another country and speak English as a second language (they also speak Chinese and step-daughter also speaks French,Flemish, and Dutch but this doesn’t matter at all to employers and assholes of the general population who only hear an accent and “broken” English)  or because I have a child with a learning disability . But I’m a firm believer in the idea that we don’t…

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The Pastoral Is Political: Parenthood Is not Punishment

Originally posted on RevGalBlogPals:

I saw it again today: the argument that birth control is a way for women to have sex without consequence; that somehow single motherhood is the punishment for having a sexual relationship before marriage.

Let us tease that apart a bit.

Mother and child Photo: Michal Zacharzewski / RGBstock

First, let us acknowledge that there are women who desire to be mothers. Many of these women are, or plan to be, married; while others are not. So being a mother is not inherently punitive.

Let us also acknowledge that – despite the physical toll it takes on the body – most women find pregnancy, on balance, to be a positive thing. So being pregnant is not inherently punitive.

Let us not forget those women who have become mothers, but the lives of their children were cut short. They are mothers still, their arms empty but their hearts full. Their too-brief time with their…

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