There is only one more after this; then I will probably post a few “My Stories.” Of course, most posts are “my stories” but the story posts in question are all about my issues with a currently popular “philosphy.” I am putting these 2 together because they are the stories that kept me stalling. I am just going to try to keep it brief…
Okay – now when you read these, imagine this is you or someone you love. Then how would you feel to hear “Everyone creates their own reality,” “Everything happens for a reason,” or similar sentiments?
Part 3) In the past 5 years, over 7 people to whom I had an emotional attachment have died. Few of these people were elderly, some were children, and most died from terminal illnesses, most notably cancer. I miss them.
I don’t like to say people “battled” with cancer, because it suggests that survivors “beat” cancer and those who didn’t survive, well, that cancer “beat” them. And I don’t like to think of it this way. People do the best they can with these things, and sometimes they survive. Sometimes they don’t. That’s it.
I read an essay years ago by a woman who had been a member of the “science of the mind” movement until she was diagnosed with a rare and incurable form of cancer. She had to make a break with the movement because her friends were implying that she must have given herself the cancer with “negative thinking” and that if she got her “thinking right,” she’d get well.
What the hell kind of community of faith is that?????? I realize that people love to latch onto things that give them some sense that they can control things that, in fact, they can’t control. But damn…that’s ugly.
Personally, I believe in miracles. I’ve witnessed a few. But hoping and praying for a miracle is not the same as expecting people to PERFORM miracles. No, it’s not.
Part 4) Through my role in a community to which I belong, I have become close to a handful of young women who, along with some adults, immigrated to the US from the Sudan. Do you know what can happen to girls in the Sudan (trigger warning)?
Though I am only aquainted with him, there is also a man who was a “Lost Boy” who is part of this community.
I don’t think I need to say anything more about this…
But I’ll say THIS again – imagine this is you or someone you love. How would you feel to hear “Everyone creates their own reality,” “Everything happens for a reason,” or similar sentiments? Really?